Many of us go through life like the walking dead with little or no thought to all of life’s possibilities! Instead of living life and exploring our own dreams we are trapped in someone else’s dream. You see, the comfort zone isn’t really comfortable at all. It’s actually the single most biggest dream killer of modern day life!
What is the comfort zone?
Wikipedia says it is, “a psychological state in which things feel familiar to a person and they are at ease and in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress.”
The key word here is CONTROL.
I think it’s safe to say that most people like to be in control of their situations and surroundings. We don’t like what we don’t know and we just like things to be status quo if you will. New experiences tend to scare us don’t they? We tend to have a have a fear of the unknown.
The bottom line is that our comfort zone comes to us by way of a learning process.
The bad news is that learning processes can be wrong. For instance, did you know that the first thing a duck sees when it comes out its egg, it considers to be its mother? It could be a dog, cat, human, but whatever it first sees is mom. Now, this serves the duck well most of the time. But you can see the limitations in the process can’t you? And it’s the beliefs that we hold that keep us conveniently tucked in our comfort zone.
There are really 8 learning processes that keep most of us in our comfort zone:
I just assume this is how life is supposed to be
I don’t know how – so I won’t
It’s not the right time to do something new
I’m afraid of making mistakes
I have to find the best way before I start
I don’t feel like doing it
Others are better than I am
I thought it would be easier than this
You see, when a person operates in their comfort zone, they lack conscious awareness that things could or should be different!
It feels comfortable so why should anything change? Actually, when operating in the comfort zone, any time a new idea is introduced, our reasoning, or conscious mind, instantly rejects it. We just love it when our outside conditions and circumstances are in harmony with our internal world.
I say, in order to get out of our comfort zone we need to be detectives. We need to actively seek ways to move past our comfort zone in a super sleuth sort of way!
One of the easiest ways is to take the emphasis off of ME and instead focus on YOU. We do this by living a life of giving…by looking for ways to add value to others.
But looking isn’t enough. The next step is to ADD that value. By doing this we put our focus on others and move beyond the mundane rituals we might currently be living in.
When we become detectives and look for ways to make a difference outside of ourselves, it takes us out of our comfort zone and we start to experience new ideas and new results…plus it feels really good and makes the world a brighter place!
Life is short. Let’s continually ask ourselves where we want to go in life and then ask what we need to do it. It will be scary, and we won’t always be in control. We won’t always want to do it, but I say…..let’s Do it anyway!
See you on the other side!